How to Get the Most Out of Getting Mad

Anger has gotten a bad rap! Processed properly, it can actually benefit you by motivating positive change.



Step 1: Don't suppress it

Don’t suppress your anger. Numerous studies have linked keeping anger bottled up with the development of health problems. This is especially true in marriage — one study found that couples who stew in silence instead of having air-clearing fights nearly double their chances of early death.

Step 2: Channel your anger into action

Channel your anger into action. The remark or behavior that sets you off is often indicative of an underlying problem, like low self-esteem or a dissatisfying relationship. Address the bigger issue, and the petty annoyances will take care of themselves.

Step 3: React strategically

React strategically. Blowing up at someone isn’t likely to rectify the situation, and will probably make things worse. Instead, take time to figure out a fair resolution, and then speak your mind calmly.

Force yourself to react more slowly and quietly than usual; angry people have a tendency to speak louder and faster.

Step 4: Become an activist

If it’s social injustices that have your blood boiling, channel that rage into action: join a political protest, donate your time to a charity, or organize your own philanthropic effort.

Step 5: Work out your anger by working out

Take your anger-induced adrenaline and go for a run or hit the gym; you’ll blow off steam and improve your health. Now that’s how you get the most out of getting mad.

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Tips For Stress Management

You can keep stress down to small doses within your control. Plan your time well. Good time management helps you complete your tasks within the given time.

• Be organised. Decide what to do first.
• List what you have to do according to their importance. A(most), B(less) or C(low). Attend to A first, then B, lastly C. Stick to your plan.
• Complete one task before starting another.
• Try to take less time to do each task, without sacrificing on quality.

Making decisions can be stressful but we can take steps to handle this problem:

• List the points affecting the decision.
• Weigh the pros and cons of each point.
• Face up to facts. Don't be blinded by feelings.
• Think calmly.
• Don't be afraid to ask for help.
• Discuss the points with those who may be affected by the decision. In this way, they will see how the choice is made and be more willing to bear with the bad points.
• Learn from your experience.

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How To Practice Positive Thinking

What were your thoughts for the past few hours? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Although people around you will not be able to tell exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, unless of course, you are a great actor. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others around you feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day.

So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

A few simple attitude adjustments can make you happier and healthier. Here's how to harness the power of positivity with the following  How To Practice Positive Thinking video .

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